Taking care of you
You cannot pour from an empty cup, and I have run mine dry more than once. Burnout builds slowly enough that you do not notice until you are already in it. Taking care of yourself is not a reward you get after everything else is handled, it is the thing that makes the rest possible.
If today is one of the very bad days, the episode about the day I almost gave up is down there. You are not the only one.
Articles & Guides
6Understanding Caregiver Burnout
How to spot caregiver burnout and recharge before you hit empty.
When Others Do Not Support the Diagnosis
What to do when family or friends do not accept your child's diagnosis.
Then and Now: When You First Hear Your Child Is Autistic
What that first moment felt like, and what I'd tell you about it now, years down the road.
When the Holidays Are Hard
Holidays wreck routines and everyone feels it. Permission to do them smaller.
Surviving the News as an Autism Parent
How to stay informed about policy that affects your family without letting it flatten you.
Helping My Kids Transition to Adulthood
What the services cliff actually looks like from inside a family living it.
Apps & Tools
1
Mightier
Clinically validated biofeedback games that teach kids to manage big emotions. Built by child psychologists at Boston Children's Hospital and Harvard Medical School.
Mightier has helped thousands of families reduce meltdowns and build lasting emotional skills.
Books
7
So Your Child Was Just Diagnosed with Autism
Rob Gorski
My book for the parent who just got the news. Everything on this page comes from it.
Written from twenty-five years of parenting autistic kids, not from theory.

The Unbreakable Boy
AffiliateScott LeRette
Scott LeRette's story of raising his son, later adapted into a feature film.

From Struggle to Strength
AffiliateHarry Psaros
Harry's account of raising his son Gus, from the earliest signs onward. Another autism dad who went and wrote it down.

The Gift of the Unexpected
AffiliateJillian Benfield
Jillian's book on the life you did not plan for, and finding it worth having anyway. She was on the show.

Doing It All
AffiliateWhitney Casares, MD, MPH, FAAP
Dr. Casares on what happens when you over-function until there is nothing left of you. She is the pediatrician from our sleep episodes.

The Working Mom Blueprint
AffiliateWhitney Casares, MD, MPH, FAAP
Parenting without disappearing into it. Written for working moms, and the part about running on empty reads true for any parent carrying too much.

Raising Body-Confident Kids
Whitney Casares, MD, MPH, FAAP
Body image, diet culture, and food pressure, handled without shame. Dr. Casares covered this on the show for autistic and ADHD kids specifically.
Podcasts
13The Autism Dad Podcast
Rob Gorski
Honest conversations about autism parenting, from our family to yours.
A Parent's Guide to Sleep and Autism
The Autism Dad Podcast, S6E58
Dr. Whitney Casares on why autistic kids struggle to sleep and what actually helps. Start here if nobody in your house is resting.
The Day This Autism Dad Almost Gave Up
The Autism Dad Podcast, S8E24
The most honest episode I've recorded, about burnout and the moment it nearly took me under. You are not the only one.
Navigating Divorce with Neurodivergent Kids
The Autism Dad Podcast, S8E05
What divorce looks like when your kids are neurodivergent, from someone who's lived it.
Helping Autistic Kids Navigate Grief
The Autism Dad Podcast, S6E30
How autistic kids process significant loss, and how to support them through it.
What Siblings of Autistic Kids Wish You Knew
The Autism Dad Podcast, S8E20
If you've wondered how all of this lands on your other kids, this one is for you.
Not Sleeping
The Autism Dad Podcast, S4E9
Another autism dad on what years of broken sleep does to a family, and how you keep going anyway.
Growing Up With My Autistic Brother
The Autism Dad Podcast, S7E42
A sibling's perspective, in their own words. Hard to hear and worth hearing.
Raising a Son With Down Syndrome
The Autism Dad Podcast, S6E29
Jillian Benfield on the diagnosis you did not expect. Not autism, and every bit of it lands the same.
The Unbreakable Boy: A Father's Journey
The Autism Dad Podcast, S8E04
Scott LeRette on raising his son, in his own voice. Pairs with his book in the Books section.
Supporting Dads in the Autism Community
The Autism Dad Podcast, S7E15
Harry Psaros on what dads carry and rarely say out loud. He wrote the book listed above.
Raising Body-Confident Kids With Autism and ADHD
The Autism Dad Podcast, S8E28
Body image, diet culture, and food pressure for our kids specifically. Dr. Casares wrote the book on it.
Kate Swenson: Autism, Parenting, Hope, and Healing
The Autism Dad Podcast, S5E13
A parent-to-parent conversation with Kate about the hard days and the hope you build anyway.
Blogs & Websites
3Finding Cooper's Voice
Kate Swenson
Kate Swenson writes honestly about raising a son with high support needs.
The Autism Cafe
Eileen Lamb
Eileen Lamb writes as both an autism parent and an autistic adult.
Modern Mommy Doc
Whitney Casares, MD, MPH
Dr. Whitney Casares on sleep, health, and keeping yourself upright while you parent.
Accounts to Follow
2Autism Parents United
Glenn Michael
Glenn Michael's community for autism parents who need somewhere to put it all down.
@findingcoopersvoice
Kate Swenson
Kate Swenson writes about high support needs autism without sanding the edges off it.
Organizations
1Autism Society of Greater Akron
Our local chapter. Family support, training, and community across Northeast Ohio.
The organization behind Aria's Angels, and one I work with directly.
Support Groups
1Special Needs Parenting Support Group
Our Facebook community where autism parents connect, ask questions, and find encouragement.
Every step here comes from So Your Child Was Just Diagnosed with Autism
This page is the book's living companion, kept current so the help you need is never out of date.
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