June 5th, 2017 was a milestone day for our family. It has been 365 days since Lizze moved back home, with me and our boys. This move ended our almost two year separation.
You can read earlier posts about what life was like prior to one year ago. I’ll try and give some brief background for all those new to our story, before updating on our current status.
Our separation basically resulted from a combination of caregiver burnout, along with both mental, and physical illness. Lizze went through a very difficult period, and we later discovered this was in large part due to caregiver burnout.
Essentially, she ran herself into the ground, caring for our family.
Caregiver burnout is very real, and results from someone putting so much into caring for someone else, they forget to take care of themselves. Over time, this can have a devastating impact on the physical, and mental health of the caregiver.
During this two year period of time, I was a single parent, raising all three boys on my own. It was the toughest thing I have ever done, but it was what I had to do. I learned a great deal about myself along the way.
Lizze and I weren’t always on the best of terms during our separation, but I tried very hard not to let that impact anything. I knew something wasn’t right. Lizze and I have been together for most of my adult life, and for her to leave like she did, meant something was very wrong. We’d never had any marriage problems before, and this came out of nowhere, surprising everyone in our lives.
I’m glad it worked out for you all.
I absolutely get it! We struggle with finding that balance as well. We have many diagnosis in our home and it has burnt us out several times over the years. Weekly date nights are a huge help. We don’t always get even that much time together, but try to put 5 minutes aside a day to Just spend time together and talk. It’s like they say on an airplane, you have to put the oxygen mask on yourself in order to be alive to take care of your child. Glad to hear you guys are together and doing well!
That’s exactly right. A wise man once told me, “you have to be selfish, before you can be selfless”.. So true… ☺
I get it. I TOTALLY GET IT. Glad you are back together and doing well 🙂
Thank you so much Christine. I really appreciate it. I’m grateful every single day… ☺
I’m glad it worked out for you all.
I absolutely get it! We struggle with finding that balance as well. We have many diagnosis in our home and it has burnt us out several times over the years. Weekly date nights are a huge help. We don’t always get even that much time together, but try to put 5 minutes aside a day to Just spend time together and talk. It’s like they say on an airplane, you have to put the oxygen mask on yourself in order to be alive to take care of your child. Glad to hear you guys are together and doing well!
That’s exactly right. A wise man once told me, “you have to be selfish, before you can be selfless”.. So true… ☺
I get it. I TOTALLY GET IT. Glad you are back together and doing well 🙂
Thank you so much Christine. I really appreciate it. I’m grateful every single day… ☺