I've spent part of the evening messaging back and forth with the principal at the boys school. We're trying to figure out a solution for Emmett while he's in the state he's in. Being in the classroom is clearly not working out for him right now and so we're looking at a few options.
I spoke with Emmett's mom and we feel like school is simply too much for him at the moment. I'm not a fan of pulling him out because I think that it's a bandaid fix and unless we address the underlying issues, this is only going to get worse..
Emmett is still struggling with more shit than he can cope with and it's got him in a darker place right now. I'm the first person he's opened up to about this stuff but he's been struggling for much longer then he's let on.
The overarching issue is dealing with loss. The biggest issue being that his mom left for a second time. He's dealing with PTSD and abandonment issues and it's not going well. Neither of those things play well with Autism, ADHD and severe Anxiety. It's not a good combination and I'm really struggling to help him through it.
Anyway, it's already not looking good for school in the morning. He's had 2 panic attacks this evening and it's been exhausting for both him and I. I can't begin to imagine how he's feeling.
There are 2 options we're looking at with school right now. The first is pretty simple. I could stay at the school with Emmett. Not sure if that would help but I know for sure it would make work nearly impossible. I'm absolutely willing to do it if it's what he needs. I'll just find a way to make it work.
The second option is *at home instruction.* Basically, a teacher would come to the house to work with him a few days a week. He would be tested and do the same work he would in the classroom, without the stress of the classroom. This would again be a temporary solution and not a fix.
We've got to help Emmett find or develop the tools needed to deal with the things in his life. That's going to take some time.
I'm not going to lie. I'm absolutely overwhelmed right now and I'm basically on my own. I can't fight every battle and I'm spread so thin as it is. The reality is that when you're a parent, you do what you have to for your kids. I'm not angry but I am worried.
With any luck, we'll get something figured out this week.
