I truly am a positive person. I can find and focus on the positive in just about any situation. One of my strongest beliefs is that it’s so important to focus on the positive because it helps to provide the strength needed to fight the good fight.
I’m frequently accused of being negative, which sorta confuses me because I’m also accused of being too positive as well. It’s like make up your mind already.
Here’s the thing…
My mission with this blog is not to publish pretty, fluffy, sweet smelling articles that contain such a candy coated version of the truth, your teeth hurt just reading them.
The goal is not to make sure my readers are comfortable with what they’re reading either.
The purpose of this blog is to present my readers with reality, as it pertains to my journey as a single parent, raising three boys with very special needs.
Frankly, it’s not pretty or pleasant most of time because this a nonfiction account of what our lives are like, every single day.
Raising three kids with Autism is a grueling task that requires superhuman abilities on the best of days. It requires an infinite level of patience a which is impossible in a finite world.
I present our struggle as honestly and with as much transparency as possible because to do otherwise would be a disservice.
It’s important that my readers learn what raising kids with Autism can really be like in real life. Every families story will be different but there is a consistent theme. That theme revolves around a misunderstood family, doing their absolute best to raise a misunderstood child(ren) with Autism, while being judged by the world around them.
It’s not easy. It’s not pretty. It’s not for the faint of heart.
I want people to know that they are not alone in their struggle. They aren’t the only ones struggling with life, money, bills, Autism, difficult behaviors, judgement, isolation, fear, grief, heartache, pain, frustration and even resentment.
At the same time, it’s so important to make sure that people find hope here as well.
I want people to see that while this is a truly difficult life me for personally, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. My kids are my life, my inspiration and my reason for living.
Yes, it’s tough but it’s worth it. Yes, I’m exhausted but feel blessed to have my kids in my life and it’s an honor to be the one tasked with guiding them through life.
Things aren’t perfect. Yes, this blog can be depressing to read however, it’s our truth and we have no choice but to live it everyday. You can simply choose to read something else.
For my family and the countless others out there like us, raising a child with Autism is a daunting task that the world doesn’t seem to understand. My hope is that by reading this blog and experiencing our lives through pictures,video and the written word, you will gain a better understanding of how Autism can impact a person and their family.
Do you have special needs kids? I’m only asking because if you don’t, than you probably won’t be able to understand. If you do then maybe you’re just a stronger person than I.
Kim, you missed the whole point.
I think you are viewed as negative because you do nothing but bitch and whine about things. Most of your troubles are self inflicted by the terrible choices YOU make. Kids with autism can in fact be disciplined, follow a schedule, and need structure. You seem to let your kids make the rules and write it off because they are special needs.
Your kids don’t feel safe because YOU have made them realize they aren’t in the best neighborhood. YOU told them about the ‘hostage’ situation and freaked them out when they didn’t need to be. You let them decide when to go to bed, when and how long they will visit their mom, and what they will eat knowing they will eat what you have given them. Also. Napping all day makes a person more tired not more rested. And I won’t even get into the pets thing. I don’t say all this to be mean, but your post is talking about reality and sometimes you need a dose
I don’t think the blog is depressing but I think you are depressing at times. You say that you are a positive person but it appears that you are actually quite negative, and then will throw in a “But I wouldn’t change it for the world!” or a “I’m truly grateful!” in an effort to convince yourself that you’re positive about your situation.
Kim you’re certainly allowed to your own opinion. You’re welcome to think that if you’d like to but your opinion and the reality of the situation is what it is.
Have a nice day.
How did I miss the point? I don’t think your blog is depressing. It’s simply your day to day experiences. I do think that you are depressing and that you’re fooling yourself if you truly believe that you are a positive person. I also think that you blame EVERYTHING, even your own failures and shortcomings, on the fact that your kids have special needs. Your entire identity is that of a special needs parent. Since Lizze left, you’ve been able to add single father to the description. Your kids are more than just special needs, and you should be more than just a special needs parent. You let those kids run the entire household and then write it off as them having special needs.
To answer your other question, no, I am not the parent of a special needs child.
Kim you’re certainly allowed to your own opinion. You’re welcome to think that if you’d like to but your opinion and the reality of the situation is what it is.
Have a nice day.
How did I miss the point? I don’t think your blog is depressing. It’s simply your day to day experiences. I do think that you are depressing and that you’re fooling yourself if you truly believe that you are a positive person. I also think that you blame EVERYTHING, even your own failures and shortcomings, on the fact that your kids have special needs. Your entire identity is that of a special needs parent. Since Lizze left, you’ve been able to add single father to the description. Your kids are more than just special needs, and you should be more than just a special needs parent. You let those kids run the entire household and then write it off as them having special needs.
To answer your other question, no, I am not the parent of a special needs child.
Do you have special needs kids? I’m only asking because if you don’t, than you probably won’t be able to understand. If you do then maybe you’re just a stronger person than I.
Kim, you missed the whole point.
I don’t think the blog is depressing but I think you are depressing at times. You say that you are a positive person but it appears that you are actually quite negative, and then will throw in a “But I wouldn’t change it for the world!” or a “I’m truly grateful!” in an effort to convince yourself that you’re positive about your situation.
I think you are viewed as negative because you do nothing but bitch and whine about things. Most of your troubles are self inflicted by the terrible choices YOU make. Kids with autism can in fact be disciplined, follow a schedule, and need structure. You seem to let your kids make the rules and write it off because they are special needs.
Your kids don’t feel safe because YOU have made them realize they aren’t in the best neighborhood. YOU told them about the ‘hostage’ situation and freaked them out when they didn’t need to be. You let them decide when to go to bed, when and how long they will visit their mom, and what they will eat knowing they will eat what you have given them. Also. Napping all day makes a person more tired not more rested. And I won’t even get into the pets thing. I don’t say all this to be mean, but your post is talking about reality and sometimes you need a dose