I’ve only been up for a short time and already Gavin has managed to ask me the same question, over and over and over and over.
To his credit, at least he’s asking the same question in different ways.
Although, it doesn’t make it any easier to take. It’s like listening to a scratched record, repeating the same chorus, over and over.. It drives me to the brink of insanity.
It gets to the point where I just have to send him to his room.
What do you folks do to survive the repetition?
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I am disgusted that people would be thankful their child is non-verbal, joking or not. My son spoke at a very young age and has not stopped since. I count myself very lucky. I cannot imagine never hearing "I Love You Mama". When my son gets to be repetitive I try to just tune him out, distract him with something and if push comes to shove I remind myself that unlike our friends my child CAN talk and I should be thankful for that.
I don\’t think I would take it that way. I think she was trying to make a point.
I didn\’t take it in a negative way.
Agreed. It could be taken out of context (and I am a different Stacy lol) but what I took from it was just trying to make lemons from lemonade, or trying to see the glass as half full. I remember back the days when Luke didn't speak (and his vocab is still way limited) and people telling me, just wait, someday.. you'll be sorry you asked, jokingly! Be careful for what you wish for! And while I'm forever grateful that he can express himself verbally nowadays somewhat, are there days I wish I could just turn it off, just for a WHILE?! Sure! Doesn't mean I'm not grateful for what I do have, though.
I feel for you, this is the thing that I can ignore some days and then some days it just drives me INSANE and I know it confuses my Luke since 9 times out of 10 I can deflect it and then that one day that I've just had too much of other stuff… I want to pull my hair out and he looks at ME like I'm nuts.
I think it's a survival mechanism that I've learned to tune it out for the most part. I even answer the questions without even realizing it a lot of the time. (My Luke's almost 18). Actually, I know that buying into his repeating/stimming is not a positive thing for him and when my husband reminds me that I'm doing it, I try to put a stop to it, but it's been so long that my mind just goes on autopilot mostly.
I can soooooo relate to that. I did the very same thing. Sometimes I can cope better than others. Thanks for sharing.
Oh man, repetition can drive me crazy. She’s only 5 though and i give into it. If I don’t she just keeps asking more insistently over and over again until it leads to a meltdown. At this point it’s just easier to give in. At least he’s using variation.:)
This is when I'm thankful my autie doesn't talk! He is VERY repetitive with his play and stimming so I'm sure I'd realy be in for it if he was verbal!
I guess in some ways I have to be grateful when I see posts like this that my daughter is still non verbal at 7 but, in saying that she can still requests things non verbally and will continue to do so until her frustration levels get that bad that she will get voilent. I guess patience is the only key, patience and lots of it…