I try to remember that it could always be worse

I'm feeling pretty good as the day comes to a close. Don't get me wrong, it was a day full of ups and downs but we weathered the storm. There are some things I'll talk about in the morning but for right now, I want to focus on the positive.   The boys are sleeping and Lizze appears to be feeling a bit better, at least from what I can see. We have a roof over our heads and our house is warm.  I was even motivated enough to jump on the treadmill today and squeeze in over thirty minutes. That's big for me..  ☺  It's not always easy but I try to remember that life is full of ups and downs. As long as we survive the day and do…

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Loving someone with mental health issues isn’t easy but totally worth the effort

Today's been hit or miss. The boys are doing pretty good this afternoon and that's certainly a welcomed change. Gavin seems to be struggling more at the moment. He almost seems a bit manic because the incessant talking and almost zero impulse control are usually tell tale signs. His thought processes are more scattered than usual and he's struggling more with his everyday tasks. I'm not super concerned at this point because we're still in the middle of the holidays and this kind of decompensation is to be expected. I'll begin to worry if it lasts much past the first week of January. Lizze has had a pretty rough day. I'm learning that bipolar disorder is different in adults than in younger people. Gavin presented very differently because his default…

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Everything I am is completely depleted

No one wanted to wake up this morning. At 8:30 am, everyone was still sleeping, and I had to get everyone up and moving because we had a 9:00 am appointment. Thankfully it didn't take too much prodding to get everyone's cooperation and we made it on time. I haven't been able to gauge how Lizze is doing today but things have definitely calmed down since last night. Personally, I'm feeling completely exhausted and I'm struggling to stay awake. Thankfully, after this appointment, we don't have anything until 5:00 pm this evening.

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I received the best Christmas present ever

In my last entry, I talked about some rather unpleasant things and I want to take a minute to clarify something important.  The boys had a really good Christmas and so did we. It was really nice to spend time with my parents over the holiday. It was also nice to spend Christmas day with my in-laws.  I told my mother in law last night that I really appreciated being there because I took it for granted before the separation.  We've had a hiccup and the boys have been in rare form but it's been a good Christmas as far as I'm concerned. The absolute best gift I could have received was having my family whole and Santa delivered. 😁 

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I re-paved the road to hell with my good intentions today

Today has not been a good day. The kids have been bouncing off the walls and Gavin has been incessantly talking all day long.  We went to my parents house for the afternoon and the boys had a great time. Unfortunately, that just sorta turbo charged their engines and has made for a really stressful evening.   Lizze had a pretty rough day to say the very least. I know she shared about how she's slipping backwards and that's largely my fault. There are still some bridges that need to be crossed with some of my siblings in regards to Lizze and I getting back together, before we can put this all behind us.  I'll be completely honest and say that it's an absolutely shitty situation to be in. I…

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Merry Meltdowns

The day after a major holiday is usually one of the most difficult days as a special needs parent. Of all the major holidays that can present with day after fallout, Christmas is by far the worst.  The boys have been freaking the fuck out, all day. Fighting and bickering is a constant issue today and frankly, it's pushing me to the brink of insanity.  I get upset and frustrated, like any parent would. The difference being that I have to keep in mind that at least some of this is out of their control. How much remains unclear but a large portion of this is related to overstimulation.  On the other side if the coin, I don't want to excuse their behavior simply because they are spectrum kids. They…

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Christmas with the Gorski’s: A Special Needs approach to celebrating Christmas 

Just some brief background before delving into this as it's important for context.  My wife suffered from caregiver burnout and that lead to an almost two-year separation while she was focusing on getting the help she needed to recover. We never divorced but she lived with her parents and I raised the kids on my own.  This past June, we put our lives and our family back together. Having spent two Christmases with our family being fragmented, this Christmas is/was very special to us.   Christmas is different for every family. Some families can go all out and others not so much.  Everyone is different and that can prove to be especially true when it comes to a family like mine. Having three kids with special needs changes just about…

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