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Do you ever feel like an awful parent?

It's been one of those days where I feel like the shittiest parent in the world. I know that part of this is depression talking but another part of it is just how I feel. I'm having a difficult time managing everything right now and I just can't seem to keep up. The kids are all on edge. Actually, Gavin's doing pretty well. Elliott and Emmett are on edge. They're over COVID and all that goes along with it. I can't say as I blame them. I mean, who among us isn't over all this shit at this point. I know I am. Elliott had technical issues with remote learning today and was unable to hear anything for part of the day. That creates a great deal of frustration for…

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January 27, 2021

My thoughts

I’m getting divorced: What I’m grateful for and few other updates

The boys are still sleeping and Gavin's IVIG Infusion is going. The only noise I hear at the moment is the filter in the aquarium because the tank needs water added. It sounds like a water fall but not the calm, relaxing kind. It's super annoying and I will dump some water in when I'm done with this. After the inauguration, I just sorta crashed. Trump, COVID and my divorce, I have had me extremely stressed out and the last few days have been one long exhale. I figure there's no time like to present to get you an overdue update and so here I am. As I mentioned, the boys are still asleep. It's a no school day and I'm letting them sleep. Frankly, aside from the fish tank,…

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January 22, 2021

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A fun little update

It's been an interesting weekend thus far. The boys came home yesterday from a visit with their Mom. They all had a great time and I'm so glad we were able to get this safely worked out. There was some transition challenges but it's a small price to pay for everyone to get a chance to be together. We managed to get through all those challenges and have settled into Gavin's birthday weekend. He turns 21 on Monday and while I'm in disbelief at the amount of time that has passed, it's an amazing moment. We're going to spread out the celebration over the next few days. We had his birthday dinner tonight, which was his favorite Chinese takeout. I had talked it over with the boys and they decided…

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January 16, 2021

Divorce / Inspirational Posts / Link / My thoughts

T-minus 30 Days

We're just beginning to wade into 2021 and there are already some major changes coming our way. Perhaps the most important is the finalization of my divorce. Lizze and I learned that exactly 30 days from today, our divorce will be final. That's a good deal faster than either one of us had planned on. We had projected that we would be looking at the second or third week in February at the earliest. This really doesn't change anything but it just pushes the date forward a bit. Nothing aside from that has changed. I guess I was knocked back a little because I had prepared myself for a later date but I supposed sooner is better than later. The kids are aware of this and while they aren't aware…

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January 9, 2021

My thoughts

The ups and downs of 2020

We're going to have a quiet evening tonight as we ring in the new year. We have no plans for anything other than maybe watching some movies and spending time together. I ordered dinner for us and it should be dropped off shortly. It's one of those days that I'm really struggling to keep my head above water. I'm frustrated. I'm overwhelmed. I'm spent. I feel like this is quite possibly the loneliest I've ever been in my life. I've mentioned before that I'm a sentimental person and this is one of those times where I feel the loss of my marriage. It's just one of those things and I struggle a bit on these days. As time passes these moments won't be so impactful and I'll make new memories.…

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January 1, 2021

Divorce / Link / My thoughts

Here’s how my appointment with the divorce attorney went today

Just wanted to drop a quick update because I think it's relavent and I'm hoping to set a positive example for anyone else going through something similar. I only talk about my experience and do so very honestly. I don't talk about the reasons why this is happening though. I know it seems more one sided and I suppose it is but it's not because I'm hiding anything. I simply want to respect Lizze's privacy and don't feel I have the right to share her story. I want to focus on how we're handling things and what I've learned along the way. While I don't share all the details, I do share the broad strokes because if someone can learn something from my experience, that's a positive thing. With all…

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December 29, 2020

Divorce / Inspirational Posts / My thoughts

How I’m choosing to handle parenting during and after my divorce

If you're new to this blog, you should know that I use this a sort of a personal journal. Many times, I'm writing about things that I'm experiencing in real time and you go through that process with me. This is one of those times. I woke up this morning and I'm finding myself very easily annoyed. Gavin is definitely pushing my buttons, whether he means to or not. For the record, I don't think he does. His brothers aren't too far behind either. I've been on edge and irritated today and I wasn't sure why until I started writing about this. I remember why and since the kids are already aware, I feel comfortable talking about it. This week, I meet with Lizze and my attorney. We will be…

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December 28, 2020

My thoughts

Someone has slept in their own bed for 2 straight nights

I have been getting much better sleep lately because Emmett has been in his own bed for the past two nights. Since Lizze left, he's been struggling to sleep by himself. He experiences separation anxiety and has to be physically touching me in order to fall asleep. I want to be there for him but at the same time, it's very difficult to sleep because I can't get comfortable. He tends to sleep in positions that take up a large part of my king size matteess. Since becoming single, I prefer to sleep in the middle of the mattress and I can't do that with him there. The last couple of nights, he's managed to stay in his own bed and I've slept so well. I am fully aware of…

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December 26, 2020