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My son baked a double layer cake

I meant to share this the other day and I forgot. I wanted to get this out there because there's so much negative right now, it's even more important to focus on the glimmers or positive moments. I shared the other day that Emmett had baked cutout cookies, all by himself. He did amazing and I'm so proud of him. Elliott checked something off his COVID bucket list as well. He baked a double layer cake, all by himself. He's been wanting to do this for a while now and he accomplished this the other day. I want to also applaud him for letting Emmett color the icing. Elliott wanted to do this all on his own but Emmett wanted to help. Instead of pushing him away, Elliott allowed him…

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December 24, 2020

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Going to the dentist in the midst of a pandemic

It was a stressful day yesterday and not just because it was a Monday. I had to take Emmett to the dentist to get his tooth fixed. I was not excited about that because we were well outside of my COVID comfort zone but it was a necessary evil. His dentist is out of town and that was literally the farthest I've driven since returning home from Orlando last February. Emmett did very well and everyone in the office wore masks. Some wore them better than others and by that I mean not everyone kept their nose tucked into their mask. I felt relatively comfortable with the COVID safety protocol but I would have preferred the avoid it all together. I was right about Emmett's tooth. It is a baby…

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December 22, 2020

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It was crazy but we ended on a positive note

Yesterday was pretty crazy. I began the process of defusing the Christmas anxiety by allowing the boys to slowly begin opening presents. Their anxiety is through the roof for a number of reasons and Christmas isn't helping. I told them I want a clean house for Christmas and as we make progress, they can pick out one present to open. The house needs caught up, and it gives them a physical outlet doing something productive. By Christmas Eve, we should be done with presents and the kids will be less stressed. I usually do early present opening anyway because of their anxiety and my own self-preservation. This is just a little different but the circumstances are rather extreme and I will do whatever helps us get through all this intact.…

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December 21, 2020

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This is breaking my heart

Emmett is absolutely miserable. The sore in his mouth is now about the size of a large pea and it's in a place that is constantly being irritated. He's spent a lot of time crying today and it's heartbreaking. I had orajel, special mouthwash and ice cream delivered at 8am and aside from the ice cream, there was no reprieve for him. The over the counter stuff doesn't seem to numb these sores and we're out of actual lidocaine. I have to call on Monday for a refill. It's so hard to see him in this much pain and be powerless to help. He can't really chew anything and when he's in these flares, he usually lives on ice cream. It's kinda like when someone gets their tonsils out, they…

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December 19, 2020

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Please keep Emmett in your thoughts

Emmett's in a bad way. He's hit a fever flare and this one is particularly painful. His first mouth sore popped up two days ago and there are likely more to follow. The poor kid is in a tremendous amount of pain and there's not much I can do to help. We've doubled up on his antivirals and he's swishing with salt water. There are more that will likely pop up over the next few days and he's going to be even more miserable than he already is. I was originally going to close things off here with something about having to order ice cream for him because it helps numb the sores. Unfortunately, as I was writing this Emmett came into my room in a panic. He was holding…

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December 19, 2020

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Avoiding conflict by encouraging my kids to communicate with each other

I spent a large part of today breaking up fights between the kids. They seem to be at each other's throats. I was just recording a speech for an upcoming summit yesterday and I mentioned something about this. I was pointing out that not everything I'm dealing with in my house is related to autism, at least not directly. There's a large portion of the daily challenge that's autism related but there's other portions that are simply typical kid behavior. The boys fighting is something that brothers do. That's pretty normal for brothers to fight and I totally get that having 3 brothers of my own. Autism tends to make things a bit more intense because of triggers and a difficulty reading body language. This is especially true when it…

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December 16, 2020

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I think I’ve created a monster

The boys have become very fond of baking and they are wanting to do so every single day. It's a bit much and while I'm excited they are trying new things, I think I've created little baking monsters. 😂 Yesterday, Emmett decided he wanted to bake brownies and that he wanted them to be chewy. When he was done, he brings me a plate with a huge slab of brownie on it. There was a time when I would have pounded that brownie down but not anymore. I ate about a quarter of it and thought I was gonna die. It was delicious but so heavy and I don't really eat that much anymore. That said, I'm so proud of the boys but we need to limit this a bit.…

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December 15, 2020

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Just one of the unique challenges that #specialneeds parents face

Gavin had a little mini emergency tonight. He had us worried for a little while but seems to be fine now. In the middle of dinner, he got a really bad migraine, I gave him Motrin and told him to go lay down. It's really hard to tell what's going on with him because he is unable to answer any questions that could help me know how to better help him. I asked him if light or sound makes his pain worse and couldn't answer that. I asked him to be more specific about where the pain is and he couldn't really do that either. This was taken pre-covid Lizze was brought in via phone to help because she lives with migraines on the daily and she might have more…

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December 14, 2020