Why our kids with #Autism won’t be attending the funeral 

I want to share why we have decided not to bring our three kids with Autism, to my great aunts calling hours, and/or funeral. In some ways, this decision was difficult, but in many others, it was easy. When it comes to saying goodbye to a loved one who's passed, it's easy to assume that everyone needs closure or the opportunity to say goodbye. In most cases, I would agree, but there are some cases in which I strongly disagree. When it comes to kids with Autism, every parent has to do what they believe to be best for their child. These decisions might not be popular but they are necessary to ensure the child's best interest. It's really important to understand that every child with Autism is different, but…

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The week ahead

The boys slept through the night and that's awesome. Lizze and I were exhausted but managed to get some sleep.  I'm not aware of anything going on during the first half of the week.  Towards the end of the week, we will have calling hours and need to make arrangements for that. We've decided that we will not be taking the boys to calling hours.  I'll explain why we made that decision in a later post. 

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Getting shit done and taking a break seem mutually exclusive 

I don't know about any of you, but when we manage to get a break from the kids, we're usually completely exhausted. Thankfully, we get somewhat regular breaks, because the boys have very active Grandparents. That's an absolute blessing.  Having said that, when we get a break, my wife and I are so far beyond tired, all we want to do is crash. When I go without sleep (or quality sleep anyway) for as long as I do, the first thing I do when the boys leave, is go to sleep.  I know that I can't actually make up for lost sleep, but my body certainly tries.  Whenever we get a break, we also face a conundrum. Do we rest, or get caught up on things around the house?  Trying…

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It’s been so long since we’ve done this

Lizze and I did something we haven't done in years. We binge watched Underworld, Underworld Evolution, Underworld Rise of the Lycans, Underworld Awakening, and Underworld Blood Wars.  We were super lazy but it was awesome. I can't remember the last time we've done anything like this.  Sometimes it's nice to do absolutely nothing, for much longer than we should. It's been a long, stressful week and I feel like we've earned a night of nothing. ☺ 

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Sounds like a win to me

The boys left a little while ago and we will have a break until sometime tomorrow. Lizze is currently sleeping and I've decided to catch-up on some work while I watch the Underworld series from the beginning. Underworld is one of my all time favorite movies. ☺  I don't think Lizze is feeling up to going anywhere tonight, and that's fine.  A quiet night without bedtime battles sounds good to me. I've not been sleeping good and I can actually take something to helpe tonight. That sounds like a win to me. ☺ 

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Never take breaks for granted 

I'm pretty sure the boys will be going to Lizze's parents today. There hasn't been any confirmation yet, but we'll make do either way. If the boys end up going, Lizze and I will get some time to ourselves. We've been under a great deal of stress this week. There's no one thing that's really weighing on us. It's more like a combination of things. The point is, all this stress has introduced some tension into the mix and that's not something either one of us want. Getting a break would mean that we can have some time, outside of all this Autism and Special Needs parenting stress. These breaks, are good for us, both as individuals, and as a couple. As I always like to stress, not everyone is…

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I’m very concerned 

As Gavin begins to struggle more and more with life, I find myself in a position once again, where I'm unsure of what to do.  Yesterday was a bit rough for Gavin. I had to make changes to the way he was doing things and he didn't take it well. Lizze and I never nitpick any of our kids, especially when it comes to Gavin.  While we don't nitpick, there are times we have to correct him. These kinds of corrections are usually the result of safety concerns. Sometimes these corrections are an attempt to avoid him breaking something, or accidentally hurting someone, himself included. Gavin would never do either of those things on purpose.  What I'm finding is that Gavin is less able to deal with these or any…

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Received 2 absolute blessings today

Sometimes, we are totally blessed by the things that happen in our lives, and today was one of those days.  As we approach the end of the month, things get tighter financially. I was settling in for a week of tightly managing our grocery budget, when some amazing news arrived. Actually, we received two pieces of good news.  The first piece of life saving news came in the mail this afternoon. Apparently, we overpaid our auto and home owners insurance by a relatively significant amount, and State Farm issued us a refund check. Surprise... ☺  About the exact same time, I received an email notice that Google had made my monthly deposit. This was a surprise as well because according to my records, I missed the threshold for payout by…

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