So we have been having problems with Gavin's school not handling him appropriately. There was little accountability for Gavin and that was a huge problem. I thought we had worked out most of the issues but apparently not. Gavin teachers are trying to teach the kids to listen to their "inner voice". I know there are some out there that are saying so what. I also know there are some of you out there saying "OMG what are they thinking". Here is why the "OMG's" are correct. Gavin has been hearing voices for a few years now. He is medicated for it but we are pretty sure he still hears them. Gavin's voices in the past have talked about killing, setting the house on fire ect. So now you see…

One of the most frustrating and draining things about raising Gavin is the fact that he lacks common sense. I am very serious when I say that. Gavin does not have any common sense. That part of his brain just doesn't work. While he is extremely intelligent it's also "think to breath" so to speak with everything else. He doesn't recognise even the most basic safety things like the burner is hot or that's way to high to jump from. Honestly, Elliott Richard past him up in that department a while back. It's hard to always keep in mind that Gavin really doesn't function very well in the real world. It's really easy to lose your patience because all you see sometimes is a 10 year old doing things that…

Last night Gavin had a HUGE meltdown. After an ok day at school he just wouldn't listen when he got home. He spent lots of time in his room but wouldn't stay there. He kept letting himself out. He got himself so upset that he was at the point of puking. So we decided to pause the punishment and let him just go to bed. He will make up the time today. I told him that he would be having oatmeal for dinner tonight. He hates oatmeal so it is a great consequence. I also told him that if he could make up his time today without a fit then he didn't have to have oatmeal for dinner. The choice is his. Lost and Tired

On the ocean of life we are experience high tide's and low tide's. Sometimes there are even rip tide's that pull you out to sea. We have experienced many low tide's and many more rip tide's in our voyage so far. Today started out pretty low. We had to rush Lizze to the ER because yesterday she developed a HUGE bruise on her lower belly where they made the incision. I was concerned because the bruise showed up a week after the surgery. My parents came and got the kids and we were off to the ER. Everything checked out just fine and we were back a few hours later. My parents held on to the kids so we could get some much needed sleep. Later on I spent some…

A random shot of Emmett John

When you have a special needs child like Gavin your social life goes out the window. I consider myself lucky if I get to watch Law in Order that was DVR'd a week ago. Most of our friends and some of our family are already gone. No one understands that you can't just get a sitter or that it's not a good idea to bring Gavin to whatever is going on. In order to get a sitter we have to keep in mind what Gavin my be like while your gone. We usually try to send Elliott Richard and Emmett John to one place while Gavin goes somewhere else. We are never comfortable sending all the kids to the same place (except in emergencies). If we can barely handle Gavin…

We are enjoying some quiet time around the house with the kids while Gavin is sick. When Gavin is sick he tends to sleep through the day. This gives us a break from all that he can entail. I know that sounds bad to most people but I know some of you out there understand exactly what I mean. We don't want him sick but we will still take advantage of the reprieve we get while he sleeps. Lost and Tired

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