When you have a child like Gavin and now possibly Emmett John how do you handle certain situations that typical children need to experience. Over the years we have learned that Gavin CANNOT handle even mildly stressful situations. He does not handle birthdays well for example. It is way to stimulating. He will be impossible to control for days afterwards sometimes. So we have learned that Gavin just can't have birthday parties. So we have adjust them so that people kind of filter through over the course of the week and he seems to handle that better. Also if we do have a small low key gathering for him (which again is rare) we have it at someone else's house. The reason for that is because we can physically leave…

On an unrelated note. I received in to Dell computers for repair today and got them repaired and returned in only a few hours. Completely re-installed windows and everything. Beat that Geek Squad!!! LT

We had our big meeting today. I think everything went pretty well for the most part. The teachers aide that we have had struggles with still is reluctant to see Gavin as anything other then perfect. But as far as everything else goes it went well. He has lots of sensory issues that we are going to have to figure out how to help him with outside of OT. So I walked away happy with how everything went. LT

In the morning we are meeting with the school. Gavin's main therapist, Dr. Patti is going to be there so we can try to fix some of the issues we are having with the schools approach with Gavin. This has been a long time coming and really needs to go well. My main goal for tomorrow is for the teachers to recognize that Gavin IS NOT your typical aspie.. He is extremely complex and can't be treated the same way. ironically we want them to be tougher on him. Most times parents want the teachers to lighten up but not in our case. We need them to crack the whip so to speak. Gavin has to learn there consequences for his violent outbursts. It's the only real chance he has.…

Vaccine, it seems to be like the grand canyon of the autism community. You find yourself on one side or the other and there is no middle ground. I will start by saying that I don't subscribe to the vaccine theory nor does my wife for that matter. The reason I bring this up is because Gavin's psychiatrist has suggested we consider withholding Emmett John's MMR vaccine. Now before you grab your torch and pitch fork hear me out. He is one of the best in his field. We are very lucky to have him here. What he said was that vaccines as a whole are absolutely a good thing. There is no research to show otherwise. Majority of kids handle vaccines without any problems (which is why you should…

I realize people don't understand what raising a child with autism is like. Maybe they have unrealistic glimpses of what it's like when they spend brief periods of time with them. But I cannot take one more person telling me that "Thank God he isn't deaf, he's only autistic". As well-intentioned as they maybe it shows the amount ignorance there is in our country today. I have had at least 5 people say something to that effect since yesterday.  They truly have no idea. LT

When I started this blog a while back (originally at blogger) I was just using it as a safe place to vent my frustrations. I didn't expect anyone to actually read it let alone follow it. For so long my wife and I felt so alone. There are no places around here for support. The support groups that are close we always felt out-of-place. Gavin isn't nonverbal and sometimes we can't get him to stop talking. How could we go somewhere and complain about him always talking and saying inappropriate things when we were sitting next to parents who would give anything just to hear their child talk. It just felt wrong. However, since starting this blog I have found that there are many families out there just as lost…