It’s been 365 days since my wife left and there’s still confusion and heartache
Today is a really big day for me. My main goal for today is to simply make it through...
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October 13, 2015
Here’s why this is going to be a heartbreaking week for me
Please give this a read. It's pretty personal and you'll understand why when you read it.
October 11, 2015
It’s not easy to remain positive when you’re getting divorced
I've made it a practice not to speak much about my pending divorce because it leads to people asking questions that I can't really answer. On this day last year, I had no idea I would only have 6 days left with my wife before she would leave. I spent some time today filling out some of the final packets of paperwork needed to give my wife the divorce she wants. After all that's happened, this divorce is without question the best thing for the boys and I but I hate even saying that because we were a family. :( I've gone through an entire spectrum of emotions over the last year but being angry was never really one of them.. Shock, heartbreak, betrayal, loss, confusion, grief and loneliness were…
October 8, 2015
The boys have dinner with their Mom tonight
The boys will be going to dinner with their Mom and Grandma tonight.. They do every other Wednesday dinners and they fall on the weeks opposite of their every other Friday over-night stays with their Mom. It doesn't give me a lot of time to myself but it is a tiny little break. More importantly however, it's a chance for them to spend some time with their Mom. I'm not a bitter person and I believe it's important crucial for the boys to have a happy and healthy relationship with their Mom. This is a far from ideal situation and one that I would have never chosen for myself and the kids. Some things however, are outside of one's control and all you can do is find the positive, pick…
October 7, 2015
Tonight’s transition was a rough one
The transition has been a rough one. The boys had a good visit with their Mom and that's something that's important to me but the transition is always a challenge. One of the biggest challenges for me is their schedule. As an example, the boys come home around 5pm without having eaten dinner. They are used to eating around 4pm and so they are already anxious about the time. Their Mom has a pretty good argument because the boys eat pretty much nonstop throughout the afternoon and aren't really hungry for dinner. That's pretty reasonable... ☺ The problem is with Gavin in particular. He's extremely ridged in his schedule and tends to freak out when there is a deviation. Even if Gavin's not hungry because he's been eating all day, …
October 3, 2015
How did the boys overnight visitation go?
The boys just got home from their every other weekend, overnight stay with their Mom. For the past year, these visits have been very difficult for them, especially where Elliott is concerned. That being said, the visits have recently made a turn for the better and that's a really good feeling. Today it seems to have gone well once again. That doesn't mean there are difficulties with transition but that's to be expected and is pretty much out of everyone's control. The boys are home and it's good to have them home. The transition is rough but it's good to have them home. ☺
October 3, 2015
Tonight’s visitation has been a disaster once again :(
Is it a full moon or something? Emmett refused to go visit his Mom today and I don't think that's ever happened. Elliott was excited to go visit his Mom and I don't think that's ever happened either. I don't know what's going in with Emmett but I do know that he doesn't want to talk about it. If push, he freaks out and the reason he does give doesn't seem very plausible. Sadly, I didn't get my Chipotle burrito tonight and that sucks because I worked really hard during the week and that was going to be my reward. Instead of my one on one date with a huge burrito, Emmett and I had dinner together. It was nice and I never get to spend one on one…
September 4, 2015
So much for my break :(
The boys have visitation with their Mom tonight and that means I get the next 24 hours off. Unfortunately, while I was in my room writing this afternoon, Emmett walked and told me he doesn't want to go. I don't think Emmett has ever not wanted to go to see his Mom. His not wanting to go, turned into refusing to go and that led to the meltdown we've been having on/off for the last 90 minutes. 😳 I spoke with his Mom about what was going on and we both agreed not to force him. He freaked out when asked if he would speak with her on the phone. WTF? I'm at a complete loss. In an even weirder twist, Elliott is actually excited to go see…
September 4, 2015