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My most important job is guiding these amazing humans through life

The boys have had a pretty good day today. I wanted to try and do something kinda fun, so when I ordered groceries, I added some things to the list that we could cook on the grill. It's nothing spectacular but it's a change of pace and the boys love cooking on the grill. Emmett physically went to school today for in person learning and had a fantastic day. Elliott is still remote learning full time because his school hasn't reopened and won't until the fall. Gavin approached me this afternoon about learning some new skills that he thinks would be useful for when he moves out. I was kinda caught off guard by his request, and some of the things he wants to learn are sorta random, but I…

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May 20, 2021

Divorce / Life after Divorce / My thoughts

Helping my kids remain open to positive change and willing to embrace it, even after they’ve been hurt

It's been an incredibly emotional evening, especially for the kids. I had to make a difficult decision tonight, but it was the right one. I'm completely physically, and emotionally exhausted now. The kids are very upset but I'm working to help them remain open to positive change, and embrace it, even after they've been hurt. The boys are doing okay at this point. Emmett's currently in his own bed, which is amazing, and with any luck, he will remain there. Gavin's already asleep and Elliott won't be too far behind. As I was writing this, Emmett popped his head in to inform me that he wants to do in-person learning again in the morning, which is awesome. Although, I just remembered that his clothes are still in the washer. I'll…

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May 19, 2021

Divorce / Life after Divorce / My thoughts

I’m going to open up a little about my life after #divorce

The weekend got off to a rough start but I'm feeling so much better. The kids don't have school today so everything is kinda thrown off as a result. It actually feels like a Sunday. I keep getting work emails that never come on the weekends and I have to keep reminding myself that it's Monday. Yesterday was my nieces first birthday and since everyone is vaccinated, we were able to get together and celebrate. It was so nice and I really liked visiting with everyone. The boys love playing with their little cousins and it helps me to see that life is moving forward. Speaking of moving foward, I went on a date yesterday evening, and I had a nice time. It was super simple and we just met…

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May 17, 2021

Divorce / Inspirational Posts / My thoughts

Why I don’t believe time heals all wounds

Yesterday was honestly one of the hardest days of my life but I survived. My marriage of nearly two decades officially came to an end, oddly enough, with the same words that it began with, I do. Our court hearing took place over the phone, at my attorney's office. It's kinda weird doing something like this over the phone but COVID has changed a great many things on our daily lives. The whole process took only a few minutes and it basically ended with the Lizze and I each being asked if we wanted to the court to adopt our agreement. I hadn't recognized the irony of answering that question with I do until 24 hours later, as I was writing this. The question was asked something like this. Robert,…

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February 10, 2021

Divorce / My thoughts

I got a break for the first time since September

It's been a couple days and I wanted to share something before I crash for the night. This will be brief because I'm exhausted and I'll try to follow up later. The other day, I called Lizze to find out if they'd been locked down for at least 14 days. They had been and so I suggested making arrangements for the boys to go over for a few days. It's been since September and that's really hard on her and the kids. We had decided to shut visits down until COVID was under control. That's the only reason she hasn't seen them. Since the insurrection at the Capitol Building and the current threats for this coming week, as well as how much worse COVID is getting, I thought we should…

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January 16, 2021

Divorce / Inspirational Posts / Link / My thoughts

T-minus 30 Days

We're just beginning to wade into 2021 and there are already some major changes coming our way. Perhaps the most important is the finalization of my divorce. Lizze and I learned that exactly 30 days from today, our divorce will be final. That's a good deal faster than either one of us had planned on. We had projected that we would be looking at the second or third week in February at the earliest. This really doesn't change anything but it just pushes the date forward a bit. Nothing aside from that has changed. I guess I was knocked back a little because I had prepared myself for a later date but I supposed sooner is better than later. The kids are aware of this and while they aren't aware…

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January 9, 2021

Divorce / Link / My thoughts

Here’s how my appointment with the divorce attorney went today

Just wanted to drop a quick update because I think it's relavent and I'm hoping to set a positive example for anyone else going through something similar. I only talk about my experience and do so very honestly. I don't talk about the reasons why this is happening though. I know it seems more one sided and I suppose it is but it's not because I'm hiding anything. I simply want to respect Lizze's privacy and don't feel I have the right to share her story. I want to focus on how we're handling things and what I've learned along the way. While I don't share all the details, I do share the broad strokes because if someone can learn something from my experience, that's a positive thing. With all…

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December 29, 2020

Divorce / Inspirational Posts / My thoughts

How I’m choosing to handle parenting during and after my divorce

If you're new to this blog, you should know that I use this a sort of a personal journal. Many times, I'm writing about things that I'm experiencing in real time and you go through that process with me. This is one of those times. I woke up this morning and I'm finding myself very easily annoyed. Gavin is definitely pushing my buttons, whether he means to or not. For the record, I don't think he does. His brothers aren't too far behind either. I've been on edge and irritated today and I wasn't sure why until I started writing about this. I remember why and since the kids are already aware, I feel comfortable talking about it. This week, I meet with Lizze and my attorney. We will be…

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December 28, 2020