Why lunch was a sensory nightmare

Emmett's still in the opening stretch of his current fever cycle, and he's incredibly difficult to manage as a result. I've mentioned before that when he's in a fever flare, many of his Autism related challenges are exacerbated.  Typically, the biggest challenge during the period of time the flare is active is sensory related.  He becomes so much more sensitive to everything around him.  Making lunch today was a nightmare that resulted in a massive, but relatively short lived meltdown. It had to do with a pepperoni sandwich that wasn't perfect.  Sometimes he likes to make his own sandwich because it must be perfect. I should also add that he rarely ever eats a sandwich because he rarely eats bread. I don't know why it's okay sometimes and not okay…

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Part puberty, part #Autism, and part normal teen angst  

Elliott had a hard time falling asleep last night. He was still awake as we hit and passed the midnight hour. I'm not sure what he was struggling with, but it occupied enough of his mind that sleep wouldn't come.  Around midnight, he began complaining about his pillow feeling funny. I ended giving him my sort of nice, memory foam pillow to use for the night.  Thankfully, it seemed to help because he's currently sleeping. I'm using this awful, rainbow zebra striped body pillow that not conducive to sleep, but what Dad wouldn't give up a pillow for his son. ☺  On a side note, this thing with the pillow is just the latest sensory related issue that's popped up for Elliott. He's been having a very difficult time with…

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I’m very concerned 

As Gavin begins to struggle more and more with life, I find myself in a position once again, where I'm unsure of what to do.  Yesterday was a bit rough for Gavin. I had to make changes to the way he was doing things and he didn't take it well. Lizze and I never nitpick any of our kids, especially when it comes to Gavin.  While we don't nitpick, there are times we have to correct him. These kinds of corrections are usually the result of safety concerns. Sometimes these corrections are an attempt to avoid him breaking something, or accidentally hurting someone, himself included. Gavin would never do either of those things on purpose.  What I'm finding is that Gavin is less able to deal with these or any…

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A night of massive meltdowns

Last night was filled with meltdowns, freak outs, and trying to figure out what the fuck was going on. Emmett was complaining of a tummy ache but he couldn't express anything more than it hurts.  It's really hard to know what's going on when he's unable to help us better understand what's he's dealing with.  There's no question he was upset about his stomach but we couldn't tell if he was hunger related, constipation, or nausea. When we asked him about describing what he was feeling, he just melted down and screamed I don't know.  He ended up falling asleep without a huge amount of trouble.  He struggled a bit because he was convinced that he was going to puke, and didn't want to sleep on the top bunk. Lizze…

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I simply cannot leave my kids

This was the first time that Lizze has been away since our separation. That ended over a year ago, and she's been here ever since. I'm super excited that she's getting to spend time with her Mom this weekend, because that's really important. To be honest, I'm a bit envious that she gets away. She misses us all but recognizes the need for a break. Good on her for that because that's much easier said than done. It's also vital for maintaining sanity, patience, and even physical/emotional health. I'm wired a bit different. When the kids go to their grandparents, I can mostly enjoy the time off. The problem I have is being away from the kids myself. I'm not able to simply leave the house and spend more than…

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There’s no way to win this war with #Autism involved

We had to get up this morning at the ass crack of dawn, in order to have the boys to Akron Children's Hospital for appointments at 8 am. Elliott and Emmett are there for good checks. It's also an ADHD follow-up.  I don't plan on anything unexpected coming from this appointment.  The only wildcard in play is Elliott sleep issues of late. I'm not overly concerned, but I do want to bring this up and see what she thinks. It's always a good idea to keep the doctor in the loop.  This will likely be one of those appointments where the drive takes longer than the doctor, but whatcha gonna do. Good pediatricians aren't always easy to find. ☺  I should also mention that I prepared the kids for the…

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He crashed about an hour ago

Elliott never fell asleep last night. That means he's been awake for roughly four of the last five days. Thays obviously not a good thing. Something has to give, if for no other reason than this is killing me.  It's especially tough on days Lizze is in class because I don't get any sleep. Thankfully, Elliott is currently sawing zzz's in his bed. He was so grouchy this morning, we sent him to his room to chill out for a bit.  He ended up dozing off while he was there. He's been out for about an hour or so.  I can't let him sleep for too long because I don't want this to impact his ability to sleep tonight. This whole thing sucks and it's really taking a toll.. 

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More bloodcurdling screams and massive meltdowns after midnight  

I didn't get a chance to write much today, and there's a good reason for that. I was up all night with both Elliott and Emmett. I don't know why Elliott was up but it's concerning when we've possibly got Bipolar disorder on the radar.  As for Emmett, he was nauseous and running a fever. He was set up on the couch, with a puke bucket and a very low threshold for anything.  Being up all night would have been bad enough, but he wasn't just awake. Emmett was having massive meltdowns into the wee hours of the morning. These weren't mini-meltdowns either. It was a super surprised that someone didn't call the police kind of meltdowns.  This, of course, didn't help Elliott sleep, but he was already not sleeping…

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