My goal with this post is to educate.  I want people to understand what we go through and that can help you understand what others go through as well.  The video included is not easy to watch but it's a key to helping you understand the struggles that families like mine often face. There is a world of difference between a tantrum and a meltdown. The most significant difference is that a tantrum is a willful act, with the goal being to manipulate or change the behavior of the people around them. A tantrum can be defused and the person having the tantrum can hear you and may be able to talk back or respond to your voice. A meltdown is essentially the body purging because it simply can't cope…

My day began shortly after the last one ended. Emmett's been up since about 4am. He's miserable and couldn't sleep.  We moved downstairs to the couch and he had a popsicle to help numb his mouth. It's about 7am now and I traded off with Lizze, so I could get some sleep... This site is managed almost exclusively via WordPress for Android. Please forgive any typos as autocorrect HATES me. ;-) Follow @Lost_and_Tired Visit the My Autism Help Forums To reach me via email, please Contact Me

Okay, I've talking about these loud cannon blasts that have been happening almost every day.  They happen in the afternoon, evening and in the wee hours of the morning. For example, the one that just went off and woke me up. Lizze actually called the police yesterday morning because there were two blasts around breakfast time. She called the non-emergency line and explained what's been going on and apparently we aren't the only ones complaining.  The problem is that they can't locate the source of the explosion. We know the general area because smoke can be seen rising above the treeline, after each blast. We're really close to whatever is being set off.  A few of my neighbors have said that there's some dude with a cannon and he has…

Emmett is miserable and is having a really hard time sleeping.  We keep rotating between Tylenol and Advil to keep the fever down and help with the pain. He's in a bad place and so Lizze, God love her, is snuggling with him on the couch.  This was the only thing that calmed him down after the last time he woke up. I know she nit comfortable but I respect so much how she willing to deal with her own pain, in order to provide Emmett with comfort. I wanted to grab a picture before I tried to move him back to bed.  He transferred to his bed just fine but I going to wait a bit before going back to bed, just in case he gets up again. Lizze…

Emmett John is in a great deal of pain.  It kills me to see any of my kids suffer. My heart has been breaking for my sweet little boy since yesterday.  The fever disorder that Emmett has suffered from, for the last two years has officially made it's return after a about a 7 or 8 month hiatus. It began about two days ago when Emmett became cranky and started falling asleep during the day, which never happens. Then we noticed the first of what would become many mouth sores. By this morning, his mouth and throat were full of them and for the first since shortly after his surgery, he actually spiked a high grade fever. I thought that we had finally seen the last of these when they…

I'm pleased to announce that Lost and Tired is officially running off our new, upgraded server.  Hopefully, this will eliminate the performance and database issues.  The site should load much faster and be much, much more stable.  With any luck, I should have a lot more head room and this will fit for the near future.  You may experience intermittent downtime as the DNS propagation finishes up over the next few days. You can see in the picture below how throttled and choked off this site has been.  This site is managed almost exclusively via WordPress for Android. Please forgive any typos as autocorrect HATES me. ;-) Follow @Lost_and_Tired Visit the My Autism Help Forums To reach me via email, please Contact Me

Hey everyone, I wanted to give you a head up because I'm forced to changed to a new server.  Right now I'm on a shared server and I'm being constantly throttled. That means that my site uses more than 7% of the available CPU power, my site comes to a crawl until my usage drops.  This is related to the traffic or so I'm being told.  I will be moving to a VPS or Virtual Private Server.  This will give me the head room that I need to continue growing. The next steps would be a dedicated server but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.  It's always nice to hear that your site is getting much traffic for the server your currently on.  It means that tons…