Today has been one of those days.  You know,  the kind that just seems to go wrong at every turn.  The day began with Elliott having going nuts as a result of his new medication.  When I say going nuts, I mean going nuts. He was rapid cycling.  His mood was literally changing by the minute. One moment he was happy,  the next he was angry and freaking out.  Then he would be just start crying. Emmett was completely confused by Elliott's behavior today and didn't know how to respond to him.  The stress set him off many times today. On top of that,  Lizze was experiencing a major flare up today that had her in bed all afternoon.  Lizze's mom had to pick Gavin up front school today because…

Today’s Victory is brought to you by yours truly and Mr.  Emmett John.

Today has been a pretty crappie day.  Elliott’s had a bad reaction to his new medication and Lizze is sick in bed.

However,  despite all the chaos,  Emmett and I found a little time to snuggle and fall asleep on the couch.  Elliott’s is passed out on the other couch.

If I had to find a sliver lining,  this would be it.

**Thanks for reading**

       -Lost and Tired

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Yesterday,  for the first time in quite a while,  Gavin had major problems at school. We haven't been able to get much from him without him melting down.  What we know is that he was escorted to the principles office at least twice.  This only happens when he completely loses control.  In other words,  things have to be pretty bad for him to go to the office. From what we know,  Gavin wasn't listening to the directions during an assignment and that led to him not knowing what he was supposed to be doing.  That of course,  led to at least 2 meltdowns. The concern I have is that I think this may have more to do with him not being able to hear what the teacher was saying and…

A few days ago,  3 to be exact, Elliott started low dose Zoloft,  for anxiety.  He has been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and the low dose Zoloft was put in place to help him with that anxiety. After 3 days on the new medications,  Elliott seems to be having some problems.  Out of nowhere he has become extremely hyper.  He's experiencing rapid mood swings and just can't seem to quit talking. The first thing that pops into both of our minds is that basically,  this is what lead to Gavin being diagnosed with Bipolar disorder.  I don't even want to go there. I don't even want to think about it. Elliott's only on 5mg of Zoloft,  once a day. Is that even enough to have a reaction to? I…

My wife and I were talking the other day and we somehow wandered into the topic of driving.

Gavin is very quickly approaching the age where most kids are thinking about their drivers license or at the very least,  their temps. 

The thought occurred to us,  will Gavin ever be able to drive? Forget will,  should he be allowed to drive? 

I realize that I may offend some by asking this question but that is not my intention,  at all.  I’m very serious.  Should my Autistic son be allowed to drive when he reaches the legal age?

My gut tells me that he will never drive.  The reason I say that is because I don’t think that Gavin has enough control over his own body,  how could he safely control a vehicle?

I’m certainly not trying to say that Autistic persons shouldn’t or can’t drive. 

What I am asking is, how do you know if your Autistic child should be driving?
Are there state laws that address this?  I know that many people with Autism live happy,  productive lives and are more than capable of driving. 

When I look at Gavin,  I see someone that,  at this point in time,  should never be behind the wheel of a car.  Things could change in the next few years but I highly doubt anything could change enough to allow me to feel comfortable enough to let Gavin drive.

He talks about driving and I always just listen to what he has to say.  I haven’t told him he couldn’t drive because I don’t know that to be the case.

However,  as much as I would love for him to be that independent,  I have to also think about the other people on the road.

Gavin can’t push a grocery cart without running into someone. I can’t even imagine what he could do with a 2000 pound car. Does that make sense?

Do any of you have Aspie’s at home that are of the driving age?  How have you handled the whole driving thing? 

I would appreciate any feedback on this.

This discussion is going on right now in the support forums as well. Feel free to hop on over and join in. 

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So you all know we had to get a new van recently.  Well,  part of the deal included the dealership completing a few things,  as well as some minor repairs. There were 3 little paint chips on the hood.  They were supposed to touch these spots up.  I wasn't expecting perfect,  as my main concern was preventing rust. However,  this is what they provided me.  I'm a bit disappointed in not only the quality of the work but that fact that they used the wrong freaking color. Does anyone else agree that this looks like the wrong color? They are going to look into it when it goes back in to have the seat belt fixed. So,  I need your opinion. Does this look like the right color?  Also,  does…

I consider myself a relatively patient guy.  I'm far from perfect but I'm pretty patient. Having said that,  everyone is driving me crazy.  All day I have listened to Elliott whine and Emmett scream. Gavin is doing pretty well but he is repeating himself all the time and doing everything super fast.  Behavioral wise,  he's doing well. Lizze isn't feeling good.  She battling these horrid migraines and her whole body just hurts. When you combine all of the above,  it's a recipe for insanity. My eyes are twitching right now. The boys are about 90% down for the night. Elliott however,  has decided that he has to watch a specific episode of Phineas and Ferb tonight. Once he finds it,  he'll be out like a light. I know it's to…