I dread getting up in the morning anymore. I totally love my life and my kids but I truly hate the issues with getting Emmett to go to school.
It’s so incredibly heartbreaking to have to coerce Emmett into going to school.
I don’t use threats or really any type of force but I do talk him into doing something that he’s so upset about, his tummy hurts.
There is rarely a morning that goes by where he willingly goes to school.
We have a standoff of sorts and I promise to check on him throughout the day, which I do. The problem is that no one directly asks him if he’s okay when I call.
The reason for that is because we are going by how he’s doing at school. If we asked him, I can promise you he’d want to come home every single time.
This is something that I’m really struggling to deal with in my own.
Being a single parent means I have no backup and no one to tag if I need to walk away for a bit. The school is helping in every way they can but I have to get him there in order to take advantage of that help.
Every single morning, I get to be the bad guy.
I’m the one who has to make him go to school against his will. Even though it’s the closest thing to being the right thing to do, it feels pretty shitty…..
🙁 one of the little guys that I work with has been having bad mornings the last couple weeks but you know I think it will change. It’s a little unhappy phase he’s going through. Things will get better. Hopefully the same is true for you guys❤️
I think that, as a parent, you have to put this issue on autopilot. He’s going to school every day. Period. The end. Good morning, bad morning, whatever, his job is to go to school and your job is to make sure he does. Obviously if he’s sick or there’s some other pressing issue that’s one thing. But he doesn’t get to dictate it. If you think that his dreading of going to school is related to some ongoing issue at school, explore it. But keeping him home won’t solve that. Neither will worrying every morning over whether he wants to go or not. If you just get in your head that this is his job and this is your job it might become a little easier to deal with – and he just might stop making it so difficult. Remember it’s also your job to teach him self advocacy. I recogniZe that it might be difficult for him to express what’s going on with him, but when he does, praise him, let him know that you’re going to help him, and let him know that it’s all because he was able to tell you about it. I hope that this advice means a little more to you than “suck it up” but, at the end of the day, this is just stuff that all parents should be doing for their kids.
Suck it up buttercup. You are sending him to school because you want him to learn how to function in society despite his difficulties. The school isn’t asking because they know the answer and know he needs to be in school learning. Take their cue and stop asking. It sucks to have to do things we have to as parents but must be done. Mom’s of diabetic kids hate hurting their kids but if they don’t the kid dies. Mom’s of arthritic kids (that’s me) have to send their kids in achy sore on little sleep and with tiny aches from their medicine. I could keep him home but I don’t because I am preparing him for a future in the workforce where his boss isn’t going to be so understanding. It’s what good parents do. Stop wringing hands! Nike logo is just do it for a reason. Take their advice. (That said, maybe you need to have an FBA done so you can get to the bottom of this school refusal behavior. It might not be as simple as all the life changes. Maybe he is drowning at school and needs a floatie tossed his way. Make the school do this, then go take your walk in the park while it’s still not snowing and the kids are at school learning)
I think that, as a parent, you have to put this issue on autopilot. He’s going to school every day. Period. The end. Good morning, bad morning, whatever, his job is to go to school and your job is to make sure he does. Obviously if he’s sick or there’s some other pressing issue that’s one thing. But he doesn’t get to dictate it. If you think that his dreading of going to school is related to some ongoing issue at school, explore it. But keeping him home won’t solve that. Neither will worrying every morning over whether he wants to go or not. If you just get in your head that this is his job and this is your job it might become a little easier to deal with – and he just might stop making it so difficult. Remember it’s also your job to teach him self advocacy. I recogniZe that it might be difficult for him to express what’s going on with him, but when he does, praise him, let him know that you’re going to help him, and let him know that it’s all because he was able to tell you about it. I hope that this advice means a little more to you than “suck it up” but, at the end of the day, this is just stuff that all parents should be doing for their kids.
Suck it up buttercup. You are sending him to school because you want him to learn how to function in society despite his difficulties. The school isn’t asking because they know the answer and know he needs to be in school learning. Take their cue and stop asking. It sucks to have to do things we have to as parents but must be done. Mom’s of diabetic kids hate hurting their kids but if they don’t the kid dies. Mom’s of arthritic kids (that’s me) have to send their kids in achy sore on little sleep and with tiny aches from their medicine. I could keep him home but I don’t because I am preparing him for a future in the workforce where his boss isn’t going to be so understanding. It’s what good parents do. Stop wringing hands! Nike logo is just do it for a reason. Take their advice. (That said, maybe you need to have an FBA done so you can get to the bottom of this school refusal behavior. It might not be as simple as all the life changes. Maybe he is drowning at school and needs a floatie tossed his way. Make the school do this, then go take your walk in the park while it’s still not snowing and the kids are at school learning)
🙁 one of the little guys that I work with has been having bad mornings the last couple weeks but you know I think it will change. It’s a little unhappy phase he’s going through. Things will get better. Hopefully the same is true for you guys❤️