I’m so stressed out right now.  I’ve been on the phone all morning.  Thank God for unlimited everything on Sprint.

I’m going to share everything that is happening right now.  Please don’t take this as a plea for help.  This is meant to help educate you as to what going through something of this caliber is like.  Maybe you know a family going through something similar but had no idea what goes on behind the scenes or what they may be experiencing.

Allow me to open a brief window into our lives and show you what they might be going through.

As I have said,  I’ve been in the phone all morning.

I spoke with Akron Children’s Hospital, where Gavin is currently being housed in their psychiatric unit.  Last night he had his stress EEG and he struggled with that a bit so they don’t have any definitive results back just yet.

I was then transfered to the case manager.  She was very nice and explained what was going to happen at this point. She said that Gavin would likely be released on Tuesday or Wednesday of this week.

When I asked about transitioning to residential care,  she seemed a bit surprised.  She’s going to look into it for me and call me back in the morning but that we needed local resources to setup a funding source.  Basically,  there are specific organizations that get involved to facilitate funding.  We have done all this in the past already but never had to actually pull the trigger on hospitalization.

I called them to find out what we would need to do.  However,  they are in the process of moving and so don’t have active phone lines and I was told there is no way to contact them. The nice lady I spoke with took a message and was going to get it to someone that could call me back…at some point.

That felt like a dead end or at least a delay,  it’s understandable.

I also spoke with family services to find out about getting help for our mortgage/rent.  We are still behind and can’t seem to get caught up.  They gave me the numbers of a few agencies that can help with utilities and mortgages.  The catch is they only take calls at a specific time,  once a week.  It’s literally impossible to get through. As the help is first come first serve,  if you don’t get through,  you can’t get help.  As you can imagine,  the volume of incoming calls at that specific time is overwhelming and makes it impossible to get through.

Another dead end.  However,  I’ll be trying anyways.

I have to also call Chase,  who holds our loan for the van.  I’m 2 payments behind on that as well.  We were never in a position to absorb a car payment but were let with no choice when our van was stolen and we needed to replace it.  I’m hoping that Chase has a hardship program that can help us to get caught up.

Speaking of the van.  I had to release 2 past due checks to the people that did $2000 worth of work to our old van about 2 weeks before it was stolen.  They have been fantastic about working with us but I’m 2 months behind with them as well.  At least now I’m current on something and that’s a good feeling.

I was also finally able to get through to Beechbrook psychiatric hospital in Cleveland. This is where we were hoping to have Gavin transferred to after he was released from Akron Children’s Hospital. I spoke with intake and they were really nice.  I was asked about the funding source.

I said that Gavin is on Medicaid because he’s on disability.  She said that Medicaid will cover the doctors,  groups,  medications and things like that.  However,  they won’t pay for his bed.  I made the mistake of asking how much the bed would cost.  She said $300-$500. I was like,  per month.  She was like,  no…per day.

Per day? Are you serious?

If Gavin were to stay for the full 60 days that would be $30,000. Who could possibly afford that?

Apparently,  that’s what the funding is for.

I swallowed my heart,  which had climbed up into my throat and explained Gavin’s situation.  Even if I had the $30,000,  they wouldn’t be able to take Gavin because of business complex medical issues. She said that no free standing facility would take Gavin because he needs advanced medical care that a psychiatric hospital is simply not equipped to handle.

That is another big,  fat,  demoralizing dead end.

I also made the call to the Cleveland Clinic in order to get him an appointment with a new psychiatrist.  They had to check into it and call me back.  I heard back a little hit later and found out that the best option was to see one of the nurse practioners,  that specializes in complex neurological disorders. That would serve as a pseudo intake and we would decide where to go from there. She has to put him into the system and call me back when I can actually make the appointment.

This is a positive thing but has nothing to do with Gavin’s long term care needs.

I still need to call back to Cleveland and get a follow up with Gavin’s autonomic specialist. He was waiting to hear back from the Mayo clinic as to possible testing for Gavin.

I’ve lost track of how many actual hours I spent on the phone.  All I know is that I would be in trouble if we didn’t have Sprint.  Their data may suck right now but unlimited is unlimited.

At the moment,  I’m on overload.  We have no plans or options for extended care and Gavin is slated to come home in a few days.  I don’t know what to do. There is simply too much to try and worry about right know.  How do I even begin to prioritize things?

It sounds like the boys have woken up from their naps and will probably want to eat.  I suppose I should feed them. 🙂

Please remember that when a family goes through something like this,  it’s damn near impossible to cope with.  Not only do they have to manage the immediate crisis but the rest of their daily lives as well.  I hope this gave you so insight into what a situation like this can easily require and honestly,  this was only a portion of it.

If you know a family just your life experiencing something like this,  please show them all the love and compassion you can.  They very likely won’t ask for it but it really helps to know they aren’t alone and that you are there to help.

What I discussed above is only the physical side of things.  I don’t have the words to explain the plethora of emotions and guilt that accompany this as well.

**Thanks for reading**

       -Lost and Tired

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